Games vs Life

As you start to read this you have to wonder some things, such as, why does this person think she knows so much about dating and giving any advise in general.

Over the years I have discovered that the best councilors, psychiatrist and so on are good not only because they have the training, but because they have the experience.  Now to bring up gaming logic that many may not understand.

When you start a brand new game, RPG, FPS, puzzles, action and so on, you are a Lv 0/1. You have absolutely no experience with the game. The controls, actions and special abilities are confusing to you. Slowly, with leveling, grinding and kicking ass, does one learn to master the game. There are those who do not learn how to play the game themselves, but use leveling/game guides or online guides to help them work through the game, or they have others level them up and then work with a fully leveled character, still not knowing how to actually play the game.

Sadly life is not like that. There is no leveling guide or person who can take over your body and do all the hard work, such as looking for a mate or going through the hard parts of jumping from partner to partner until you find someone who fits well with you. Like a healing priest to a warrior tank, which is an awesome combo when you are running instances over and over to level. If they work together long enough, they know each others moves and skills that they do not even have to talk, they can just go, go, go and never stop. Priest drinking between pulls, making sure they HOT/Bubble (HOT = heal over time) before starting to drink so they can mana up while the tank runs in and starts gathering aggro.

Gaming and life are sadly very similar. The more you work on your character the more you get to know it, the best way for your character to move and how it's abilities can most effectively work in a group of people can make it unstoppable. Sadly you have those who do not know how their character moves and works. They think that gear(clothes) and stats are the only thing that matters, they don't need to know themselves.

Before you begin dating, you should know yourself. Know what you like and don't like. Know the music and food and books you like. If you do not know yourself, then how can you expect others to get to know you and love you.

If you notice that you are one person around your friends and a completely different person around new people or people who you are trying to court, perhaps you should change something. You cannot pretend to be something you are not, at one point, it will break through and then others will begin to wonder. Are you really who you say you are? You act this way with me but you act this way with your friends.
If you meet someone who is showing 2 different personalities, beware.